In the time of the metrosexual man, it is becoming more common for Grooms to want to have a firm say in the wedding plans. Whilst this is great news and your efforts helping with decisions will be much appreciated, there are some golden rules to be followed.
The key to success and minimal stress is to listen. There will be times when your stress ridden betrothed wants your help with a situation or a supplier, other times she will simply be looking to vent her frustrations. You need to be able to identify which bride-to-be you are talking to without asking the wrong questions. The correct question in most cases is 'I know that you are more than capable of dealing with *add current dilemma* but I would like to help if I can. Is there anything you want me to do?' This not only affirms your faith in her and your willingness to participate with keen interest in the plans, but also lets you know what she is in need of at that particular time. If she asks you to take action, take action in a timely manner. Do not expect that your efforts will be gratefully received if you have taken three months to book the first suit fitting, or make an appointment with the caterers. This implies, rightly or wrongly, that you have little or no interest in the impending nuptials, a fact which rather than alleviating stress will simply add fuel to an already deadly blaze.
