Mother Of The Bride Tips

F­­­­or mothers of the bride and groom, the wedding can be an emotional transition period. It is the point when you realise that your little one, is not quite so little anymore.

This can lead to many disputes over silly matters. The key to avoiding undue stress is to simply talk with your child and their partner. By talking things through, all of you will feel more at ease. Try to look at it as gaining another member of the family, rather than losing one. Of course, you are allowed to have that sneaky cry into your handkerchief in the kitchen when no-one is watching.

Try not to lay all your fears on your child's shoulders. Not only is this most unfair, but it is simply not the right time to point out any flaws in your child's choice of partner. By this stage they have decided that this is the person of their dreams. Other than concerns for their personal safety, any critical views you may have would be best kept to yourself. They will simply serve as a wedge between you all.

The trick is to give your opinions tactfully and try to think of your childs’ general preferences. When it comes to the wedding their choices are paramount. If your child does not like formal occasions then it is likely to be an informal wedding. Regardless of your feelings on the matter this is not a battle that you will win. Be supportive and open-minded. When your daughter has found the dress of her dreams, you will know by the look on her face. Even if it is not a style to your liking show your support.

However should your child's dress or suit be ill fitting, it is a mothers role to gently and respectfully request alterations. If these suggestions are ignored, do not get agitated simply move on to the next item in question.


One of the most stressful planning processes as a mother of the bride/groom is choosing your outfit. Start by consulting with the other mother. You may wish to do this over tea or coffee. Not only will this ensure that you are both co-coordinated on the day and not wearing the same outfit, it is also a good opportunity to get to know your child's in-laws better. If you already have a good relationship, it may be worthwhile scheduling a joint shopping trip with your daughter/daughter-in-law.

This is a great way to get away from the drama of the wedding plans and if organised well, can serve as a girls day out. There are many options now available for mothers, on the high street and directly from a designer. The decision simply comes down to your personal preference. Start by looking at magazines, books and on the internet, to find your perfect style.

When you start to look for that perfect outfit, it is a good idea to opt for a classic timeless piece. Avoid busy prints as these will date quickly. You also run the risk of them swamping you, especially if you are petite.

Worse still you may overshadow the bride, in a selection of rainbow colours that would make Pat Butcher and Mr Motivator put their sunglasses on to avoid the glare. Never ever wear white or ivory. This is simply bad taste and a sign of poor etiquette. In general it is a good idea to be in keeping with the bride's theme. If the wedding is formal do not wear a trouser suit. Vise versa do not wear an evening dress to an informal wedding. If you do decide to opt to shop on the high street, then you need to consider the fact that many of the guests will be looking in the same stores.

A basic, classic piece is best, as you can make this type of piece your own with accessories. Perhaps you have found the perfect outfit in a magazine but cannot find it in any of the suggested stores. Take the picture to a tailor and see if they can re-create the piece for you. If you do not think that either of these options are for you, then the best idea is to pay a visit to a local designer.

We are blessed with such a large pool of talent, you are sure to find the perfect designer to create a bespoke look perfect for your needs.

Accessories can make or break an outfit. It is best to take your outfit with you when shopping for these items, to ensure that colours match. If you have gone for a bold colour, then simple understated accessories are best. However if you have chosen an elegant classic piece, then you can really make a statement with your choice of accessories. Remember that accessories can add or shed pounds, so make sure you try them on and feel comfortable, before you make your final purchase.

On the day itself make sure that you are ready early and on hand to help with any last minute dilemmas. This includes button holes not pinning properly, buttons falling off, or hems dropping. Tell your child over, and over how beautiful they look and how proud you are of them. Wear waterproof mascara and carry extra tissues. Most of all, take the time to enjoy the day.

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