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20/02/2013

After Three And A Half Years Your Husband May 'Take You For Granted'

Couples start taking each other for granted three years and six months into their marriage, it has been revealed.

A poll of 2,000 married adults showed this is the point where couples lose the dating buzz, prefer sleep over sex and stop saying 'I love you'.

The research indicated that after three and a half years of wedded bliss, cuddling up on the sofa in the evening is a thing of the past, with couples more likely to go to bed at different times.

And by this time in a relationship, rather than settling down to enjoy an evening together, the likelihood is that couples will eat at different times, sit in different rooms and zone out of a conversation in favour of watching television.

Kate Jones of Co-operative Food, which commissioned the study, said: "This research shows once they’ve tied the knot, it’s all too easy for couples to start getting complacent and start taking each other for granted.

"Once the honeymoon period is over, couples often let bad habits take over and forget to go the extra mile to make each other happy.

"We all know that it’s the little things that make a big difference, so adding a bit of quality time, like re-introducing 'date nights' or enjoying a meal in together, could be a good way to show you care."

The study also found appearance takes a turn for the worse, with many dressing down in tracksuit bottoms or pyjamas before their partner gets home.

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Not bothering with make-up and ditching matching underwear in favour of granny pants also becomes commonplace.

Additionally, this is the stage when familiarity with each other leads to forgetting the major events, such as wedding anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, Christmas and even birthdays.

Couples also revert to being more interested in spending time with friends than each other.

But despite entering the comfort zone, two thirds of those polled said they still consider their marriage to be 'strong'.

In fact, only 43% believed taking each other for granted was a bad thing, and 75% said it was ‘normal’ for anyone who has been married for a decent length of time.

Nine out of ten people claimed the only reason they behave as they do is because they are so comfortable with each other.

Kate Jones added: "Bad habits begin to creep into the relationship, such as breaking wind in front of each other, showering less, women forgetting to shave their legs, not closing the bathroom door when using the toilet and leaving the toilet seat up.

"Far from those bad habits being a sign that the relationship’s on the rocks, it looks as though taking each other for granted can be a sign of security and comfort, and you don't need the reassurance of saying 'I love you' all the time."

Although 82% of couples claim to be happy with their marriage, 49% do wish their partner was 'more romantic'.

However, half of couples admit they don’t tell each other they love them enough, and one in four would like to make more effort by introducing more 'date nights'.

Top 20 signs of being taken for granted

1. Opting to sleep rather than having sex

2. Lack of 'date nights'

3. You forget to say 'I love you' everyday

4. You stop kissing each other goodbye

5. Got to bed at different times

6. Don’t cuddle up on the sofa in the evening anymore

7. Dressing down in tracksuit bottoms before the other half gets home

8. No longer bothering with Valentine’s Day

9. Assuming you’ll do all the chores

10. Breaking wind when partner is around

11. The little phone calls at work stop

12. Ditching matching underwear

13. You don’t religiously apply make-up before seeing each other

14. Forgetting to say thank you for dinner

15. You stop shaving your legs so often

16. You stop buying spontaneous gifts for no reason

17. Lacking on chores or doing half jobs

18. Leaving the toilet seat up

19. Not excited at the chance to spend one on one time with you

20. Prioritises their TV choices over yours

(GK)

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"Couples start taking each other for granted three years and six months into their marriage, it has been revealed."